Like the ebb and flow of the tide or the rising and setting of the sun each day, your life may follow a seemingly set pattern. This pattern,however, likely has some less-than-ideal traits -- mistakes that you keep repeating over and over.
Perhaps you are always late to appointments, or you procrastinate on projects so much that you miss opportunities. Or maybe you keep dating the same type of person who doesn't work for you, only to have your relationships fail time and time again.
If there is some aspect of your life right now that seems to keep going awry, no matter how many times you keep at it, it’s likely that you’re stuck in a negative pattern of mistakes.
Repeating the same mistakes is a very easy pattern to fall into, and it may feel like there's no way to break free. However, in time these mistakes can have a negative impact on your life, your feelings about yourself,your health or your relationships.
'When we want to change what was, we tend to re-create the exact experience that we're not wanting to have,' says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates. 'The way this works is that the mind creates in pictures and it doesn't know how to translate not, never or don’t. So if something has happened that we don’t like, we say to ourselves I hope this never happens again' or I'll never do that again.'
“The problem is the mind drops out the word ‘never’ and we're picturing exactly what we don’t want,” he continues.
The more you hold in mind what you don't want, the more you bring those negative thoughts into your reality. Your thoughts actually manifest into your daily life, so you need to redirect your thoughts to positive ones -- and doing this first means letting go of the negative ones,including your bad habits.
“The best way to break this pattern is to let go of wanting to change what was,” Dwoskin says. “Also, when we want to change what was, we have to keep re-creating the same situation over and over again so that we can change it. When you let go of wanting to change what was then you can allow yourself to deal with what IS.”
“When you deal with what is now, as opposed to what was o rwhat might be, you tend to make better decisions and get much better results,”he says.
The Sedona Method,a simple, scientifically proven system,has been helping people successfully break free of negative behavioral patterns using the releasing principle since 1973.
As you release, you’ll find that new avenues open up in your life and you’ll begin to try out these different routes, usually with much more success and happiness than you had before.