Five Things to Do Now if Stress is Hurting Your Relationship

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    Letting Go Big Talker
    • Jul 2010
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    Five Things to Do Now if Stress is Hurting Your Relationship

    Stress of all kinds is the root cause of many relationship breakups. It could be related to your kids, your work situation, your intimate life, your communication or, a big one right now, your finances. Whatever the cause, when stress begins to fester in your life, it tends to become all-consuming, leaving little time left over to tend to the needs of your better half.

    Meanwhile, the stress itself may be making you irritable, grumpy and hard to live with. It may be creating major fights over small things, or causing you to blame your stressed-out feelings on your partner, when in reality the cause has nothing to do with them.

    “When we are feeling stress of any kind it drains our inner batteries,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates. “And when we have no energy available for ourselves, we have even less energy available to share with others.”

    No doubt many couples are feeling an extra stressful strain on their relationship as we face uncertain financial times. Even under normal circumstances, financial stress is a major cause of divorce.

    In fact, a new study conducted by Relationships Australia found that 37 percent of women and 30 percent of men cited financial stress as the main cause of divorce. And an unrelated USA TODAY/CNN/Gallup Poll found that spending too much and saving too little are the top financial complaints among couples.

    Whether it’s financial or another type of stress that is putting a strain on your relationship, there are things you can do to make it better.

    1. Let Go of the Stress
    As we become stressed, we have a tendency to focus on it so that soon even neutral situations make us anxious. To break the cycle, and free yourself from the stress, letting go is essential.

    'The best way to prevent stress from affecting your relationships and your overall health and well-being is to let go using The Sedona Method,' Dwoskin says. 'The more you let go the more you open yourself to the infinite source of energy that's already right within you. As you do this you find that your batteries are always fully charged, and you will have the energy and caring to love your partner and be there for your partner in a way that will truly support you and them.'

    “So as stress arises throughout the day, no matter what it's about, allow yourself to welcome it fully and then allow it to pass through your awareness,” Dwoskin continues. “If you allow yourself to stay open even when feeling stressed you'll find that it simply dissolves without taking its toll on both the relationship and energy level.”

    2. Exercise
    Taking the time for some physical activity not only strengthens two organs that can become physically affected from too much stress (your heart and your lungs), it also supports your mental health.

    Exercising increases levels of endorphins in your body, which stimulate your immune system, reduce stress and ultimately make you feel happier, calmer and more peaceful.

    3. Get a Good Night’s Sleep
    A lack of sleep raises levels of the stress hormone cortisol, but when you get enough sleep cortisol levels are lowered. Plenty of sleep also helps to increase your energy levels, so you’ll be more able to cope with any setbacks you face during the day.

    4. Eat a Healthy Diet
    Stress actually robs your body of nutrients, which means plenty of fruits, vegetables and other antioxidant-rich foods are crucial during times of stress.

    5. Stop Wanting to be Right
    Stress often leads to arguments about anything and everything, and arguments almost always divide couples over who's right and who's wrong. Yet, life is not a battle that you must 'win' to survive. To the contrary, it is almost always better to let go of being 'right' if it means that you can be at peace.

    So if you find yourself getting drawn into a stress-related argument (or really any argument) remind yourself that being right is not what’s important.

    “If you begin listening to your intuitive knowing, or what some might call your heart, concepts of right and wrong fall away. There is just Being,” Dwoskin says.

    How do you get to this place of 'Being'? Let go of your need to be right using The Sedona Method. The more you do so, the more your stress will simply melt away.
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