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Ask for It: How and Why to Seek the Help of Others (A Skill Most People Lack!)

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  • Ask for It: How and Why to Seek the Help of Others (A Skill Most People Lack!)

    Asking for help is not easy. That's why people often don't do it, sometimes to the detriment of an important project, relationship or financial situation. In fact, professionally speaking, not asking for help is the biggest networking mistake that people make, according to a 2003 survey by staffing service OfficeTeam.

    "Many people avoid asking for help because they feel it is a sign of weakness or are embarrassed that they have failed to do it on their own," says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates.

    Yet, asking for help is one of the best things you can do for your professional and personal life. Why? Because, as poet and preacher John Donne said, "No man is an island, entire of itself."

    We could all benefit from the ideas, encouragement and physical actions of others from time to time. And, far from being a sign of weakness, asking for help can turn something good into something great -- and can turn a potentially bad situation completely around.

    "The reason that there are others on this planet," Dwoskin says, "is so we can help each other."

    Need Help? Five Tips to Ask for It

    Once you've done as much as you can do, exhausted your resources and come to the conclusion that you need help (you don't have to wait until you have no other option to ask for help, by the way), here are the top methods to make asking for it, and receiving it, easier:

    1. Let go of your negative feelings about asking for help. Most people resist asking for help because they're afraid it will reflect poorly on them. But if you release these feelings using The Sedona Method, you'll have nothing holding you back.

    "As you let go of the fear of being weak or vulnerable with The Sedona Method you allow yourself to ask for help when appropriate while still being able to easily do things on your own," Dwoskin says.

    2. Be direct. There's no reason to make excuses or apologize, just explain the situation and ask for what you need.

    3. Accept the help. There's no bigger slap in the face than doing a favor for someone, only to have the person reject your efforts or change their mind. If you ask for help, make sure you're prepared to accept it.

    4. Offer to help in return. Though it's not necessary to keep tabs on who's helped who, if you know of something you could do to help the person who has helped you, offer it.

    5. Be appreciative. Let the person who's helped you know how much you appreciate their help. It will make their day!

    And remember, it takes a strong person to know they need help, and an even stronger one to ask for it.
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