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  • How to End the Frustration of Not Meeting ithe Ideal Mate Once and for All

    In their quest for true love, Americans spend hundreds of millions of dollars on online dating services every year, according to the Better Business Bureau. Meanwhile, 43 percent of U.S. adults -- that's 87 million people -- are single, the Pew Internet & American Life Project found.

    Still, even with all those fish in the sea, meeting the ideal mate is not always easy.

    Pew Research even found that only a small number -- 16 percent -- of those in the single's scene are actively looking for a partner. Taken this way, just 7 percent of U.S. adults are in the market for a new romance.

    Searching for true love can, indeed, feel like you're searching for a needle in a haystack, and your emotions may be wearing thin, particularly if you've been burned before. Among the challenges of dating that The Pew Project found:
    • 47% of singles said there were very few single people in their town they’d be interested in dating
    • 55% of singles looking for love said it was difficult to meet people
    • 10% said they didn’t know much about the local singles scene


    In time, it's easy to internalize your search for the ideal mate and project reasons why it hasn't worked inward onto yourself. You may even begin to feel something is wrong with you simply because you haven't found the right connection. And though it may seem that the best way to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right is to keep plugging away at your search, this is actually the LAST thing you should be doing.

    If You Want to Find Love, Stop Looking

    “If you are searching for that perfect someone stop!” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates.

    “The best way to find or attract your perfect partner is to first be your own perfect partner. Most of us are looking to complete ourselves in another person and this never works,” he continues. “If you allow yourself to feel your own inner completeness -- that you are enough -- then you bring that feeling into your relationships.”

    In fact, the more you feel complete with yourself and your life, the more you will attract the people you’re looking for. It may sound hard to believe, but this transition will be effortless because you will have changed the flow of energy in your life.

    Right now, for instance, you may be feeling burdened by your search for love, downhearted by its scarcity in your life, or anxious that you won't find the one. These very natural feelings are putting out negativity all around you, and attracting more of it. This is where The Sedona Method-- a simple tool to release your negative emotions -- is invaluable.

    As you release your fears, longing and anxiety, and even as you release the need to find a partner, suddenly the energy around you will become positive. And in that positive energy is the key to attracting your ideal mate.

    “If you are really wanting to have a relationship, others can smell that and they tend to shy away,” Dwoskin says. “As you allow yourself to feel complete within yourself by letting go, you will find that you are much more open and available for Mr. or Mrs. Right.”

    “Also remember that if you are like most people you are only looking for one person -- not many -- so if you find yourself meeting some people who are not right at first that is OK,” he says. “Your perfect partner is just a release away.”
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  • #2
    What a great article! Is there any more Sedona Method material on this particular subject (finding that special someone)? I don't sound desperate, do I? lol. Any tips that anyone can offer me would be great!

    Dan

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    • #3
      Dan,
      The Sedona Method book and the 20 CD Basic Course both have extensive sections on Your Ideal Relationship.

      The most delicious thing about being released about this, is that everyone and everything is seen through the eyes of love without a trace of need or wanting. The search is over and one is flooded with love for the beauty and perfection that is.

      All the best,

      Susan
      Susan Seifert
      Certified Sedona Method Coach
      http://www.yoursedonacoach.com
      Register for my Free Sedona Method Support calls

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      • #4
        Hi Dan,

        and when you would like some more: the Practical Freedom (holistic releasing) CD package has a whole CD about Your Ideal Relationship.

        enjoy,
        Clarie
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        Clarie van de Langenberg --- Sedona Method® Certified Coach
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        • #5
          Ah yes, it is a delicious thing to be that released, Susan.

          And that's good to hear about the Practical Freedom CD, Clarie. Does it talk about an ideal relationship with yourself or an ideal relationship with an actual person? lol, silly me, it's all just a dream

          YouTube - DJ Dean - It's A Dream

          Love,
          Dan

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          • #6
            That's a cute video

            thanks,
            Clarie
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            Clarie van de Langenberg --- Sedona Method® Certified Coach
            E-mail: [email protected] - http://www.sedona-methode-coaching.nl
            Sedona Methode Nederland - Facebook group: http://www.facebook.com/home.php?sk=...690791391&ap=1
            Reconnect Yourself - Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/ReconnectYourself
            Official Sedona Method websites: http://www.sedona.com - http://www.lettinggo.tv

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            • #7
              I love the simplicity of the 'Effortless Relationship' section of the Basic course (CDs 12-15). I must have listened to it 50 times and still I came up with more and more good releasing material along the way to 'hootlessness'. For me, my favorite part was releasing on the action steps and then watching things unfold, as my perfect relationship materialized!

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              • #8
                That's great. I assume this will help with lack of human contact in general. Sometimes it would be nice to share experiences. I guess I am already.

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                • #9
                  Lynne~

                  Can you talk a little more about how your perfect relationship materialized? Did you set it as a goal and release on it or did you do something else?

                  Thanks

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                  • #10
                    This is great!

                    so if you find yourself meeting some people who are not right at first that is OK,” he says. “Your perfect partner is just a release away.”
                    Last edited by Tim McCavitt; 09-19-2010, 11:51 PM.
                    Do what you do when you are doing it, and don't do what you are not doing when you are not doing it!

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                    • #11
                      Hey Dan,
                      The good news: all you have to do is release; keep letting go re. your perfect relationship, until there is [B]no wanting[B]...when the wanting is gone what "takes its place" is a feeling of having, completeness...you'll be coming from there...bringing that into a relationship, rather than looking to the relationship to provide/fulfill it!

                      The bad news: you may be faced with having to make a decision...redhead, blonde or brunette??!!
                      Have fun, and happy releasing!
                      Tim
                      Tim McCavitt Sedona Method Instructor
                      http://www.sedonareleasingworldwide.com
                      [email protected]

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                      • #12
                        Thank you. This was very timely for me.

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                        • #13
                          Hi Marion,

                          One area that we sometimes overlook regarding, well, everything is resistance. It's the stuff that keeps the "staus quo" in place. If you haven't already you may want to do a bit of letting go of resistance: "Could I let go of resisting having the perfect relationship?" and "Could I let go resisting not having the perfect relationship?" Try this a few times back and forth...

                          All the best,
                          Tim
                          [email protected]
                          Tim McCavitt Sedona Method Instructor
                          http://www.sedonareleasingworldwide.com
                          [email protected]

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                          • #14
                            Thanks to all for the suggestions on this thread! This is exactly what I came here to find today, as I'm a bundle of discouragement and anxiety over the wanting of a mate! I don't think I'm looking for someone to complete me, because I really do feel complete and happy with who I am - I'm just lonely! I want to be a part of a couple and all that that entails. And also, not sure where to draw the line with looking for someone.....I'm attending a speed dating event tonight - lol, and I'm also on match.com. Would it really be better to take myself out of these kind of venues until I get to hootlessness?? I have a feeling that it's my intense wanting that is holding it away from me, however, I have a hard time believing that it's possible to get to hootlessness on something that I want so much?? Does anyone have any examples of things that they released intense wanting on??

                            Thanks,
                            Kris

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                            • #15
                              Hi Kris,

                              Oftentimes, it can be wording the goal clearly and precisely that can be the most powerful, and being willing to let go of settling for less. In my case, having worded my goal "for a mutually loving and rewarding relationship with the perfect partner for me", I released until it was perfectly okay either way and actually let the whole desire go.

                              What happened was that he was already in my life, we had meet at a SM workshop and had been friends for several years. I became increasingly aware of how much we had in common, how comfortable and fun we were together, and of like mind.
                              The rest unfolded naturally!

                              My loving partner and husband is Tim McCavitt (see above). Lester used to refer to us as "two of a kind!"

                              "When you're totally released, the seemingly impossible becomes immediately possible." - Lester

                              Love,
                              Annie
                              Last edited by Annrika James; 11-10-2010, 12:10 PM.
                              Annrika James Sedona Method Instructor
                              www.sedonareleasingworldwide.com
                              [email protected]

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