How to End the Frustration of Not Meeting ithe Ideal Mate Once and for All

[Sedona Training]

In their quest for true love, Americans spend hundreds of millions of dollars on online dating services every year, according to the Better Business Bureau. Meanwhile, 43 percent of U.S. adults -- that's 87 million people -- are single, the Pew Internet & American Life Project found.

Still, even with all those fish in the sea, meeting the ideal mate is not always easy.

Pew Research even found that only a small number -- 16 percent -- of those in the single's scene are actively looking for a partner. Taken this way, just 7 percent of U.S. adults are in the market for a new romance.

Searching for true love can, indeed, feel like you're searching for a needle in a haystack, and your emotions may be wearing thin, particularly if you've been burned before. Among the challenges of dating that The Pew Project found:

• 47% of singles said there were very few single people in their town they’d be interested in dating
• 55% of singles looking for love said it was difficult to meet people
• 10% said they didn’t know much about the local singles scene

In time, it's easy to internalize your search for the ideal mate and project reasons why it hasn't worked inward onto yourself. You may even begin to feel something is wrong with you simply because you haven't found the right connection. And though it may seem that the best way to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right is to keep plugging away at your search, this is actually the LAST thing you should be doing.

If You Want to Find Love, Stop Looking

“If you are searching for that perfect someone stop!” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates.

“The best way to find or attract your perfect partner is to first be your own perfect partner. Most of us are looking to complete ourselves in another person and this never works,” he continues. “If you allow yourself to feel your own inner completeness -- that you are enough -- then you bring that feeling into your relationships.”

In fact, the more you feel complete with yourself and your life, the more you will attract the people you’re looking for. It may sound hard to believe, but this transition will be effortless because you will have changed the flow of energy in your life.

Right now, for instance, you may be feeling burdened by your search for love, downhearted by its scarcity in your life, or anxious that you won't find the one. These very natural feelings are putting out negativity all around you, and attracting more of it. This is where The Sedona Method-- a simple tool to release your negative emotions -- is invaluable.

As you release your fears, longing and anxiety, and even as you release the need to find a partner, suddenly the energy around you will become positive. And in that positive energy is the key to attracting your ideal mate.

“If you are really wanting to have a relationship, others can smell that and they tend to shy away,” Dwoskin says. “As you allow yourself to feel complete within yourself by letting go, you will find that you are much more open and available for Mr. or Mrs. Right.”

“Also remember that if you are like most people you are only looking for one person -- not many -- so if you find yourself meeting some people who are not right at first that is OK,” he says. “Your perfect partner is just a release away.”

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[DelilahCertifiedSMCoach]

Hi Lashawnda!

Through out all the recordings there is much material on the specific subject of relationships. In fact, all releasing is pertinent to relationships even though it may not appear to be so. think about the the four wants for example. When you think about relationships check to see if that stirs up wanting approval, control, security, separation or oneness. Welcome that want. Could you let go of wanting that want? Welcome your answer. Could you let go of wanting to get that want from a relationship? Could you let go of wanting a relationship?

The point of releasing or letting go is not to give up on HAVING our goal but to let go of wanting the goal so that we can open to having our goal.

Best,
Delilah

[Lashawnda]

Hi,this is a great article! Is there any more Sedona Method material on mega moolah particular subject

[DelilahCertifiedSMCoach]

Hi yassine!

I'd also recommend writing a goal statement for this and releasing on that.

Best,
Delilah

[yassine]

This is great!

[Coach Susan]

Hi
I just saw this thread.
question:

what if you don't want a perfect relationship with the "one". what if all you want is load of one night stands? how do you go about releasing on that?

Notice the wants and feelings associated with that desire and let them go. Let go of wanting the one night stands.

Doing advantages and disadvantages and likes and dislikes on that desire would be a good idea too.

[DJMarco]

//double post//

[DJMarco]

Hi
I just saw this thread.
question:

what if you don't want a perfect relationship with the "one". what if all you want is load of one night stands? how do you go about releasing on that?

[Durden]

Hi Annie

Thank you for your detailed reply.. i've been waiting for it..
Though my goal is actually body related and i used money as an example .. even then the reply is useful.
Coaches and instructor here are very loving and supportive

Thanks again.

[radical]

I notice that a "relationship" can add to the joy by sharing and giving to the other because I want nothing from them but what they wish to give. It is being vertically aligned with the other to divinity rather than horizontally aligned solar plexus to solar plexus which is what most relationships seem to be.

Manfred

[Annrika James]

Hi Kahn,

It seems like you might be getting too hung up on the wording. The true purpose of goal setting is to invite up everything in the way of fully living/being the abundance and aliveness that you are. The ultimate goal!

My suggestion would be to word a goal in a way that evokes that which you already are, i.e "I allow myself to be the abundance that I am with joy and ease"... and release all thoughts, feelings and beliefs in opposition to that.

The tendency is to look for happiness, security, satisfaction, and the sense that "I am enough" outside of ourselves...which is fleeting at best.

There's nothing wrong with setting goals for a specific amount or more, but just be aware that there's no guarantee. So, if you take this approach, keep releasing until it's okay whether or not you get the goal. In other words, until you're unconditionally accepting of the outcome.

Which ever approach you take (you could explore both), allow your innate courageousness to light the way and take positive, constructive actions for your highest and best good (and that of others if it involves clients, colleagues and/or loved ones).

I hope this is of help.

All the best,
Annie

[Durden]

Hi Kris,

Oftentimes, it can be wording the goal clearly and precisely that can be the most powerful, and being willing to let go of settling for less.

Hi Annie
Felt good after hearing your story.. but i want to ask you something abt wording the goals..
I can word my goals precisely and clearly relating to what i want , and have no desire to settle for less
But in the book , hale suggest to word your goal so it seems realistic and real for you..
Like if you want 10,000 $ a week, you might word it 2500 a week cause 10,000 might be too big a jump for your mind..
Now if i reword my goals after this suggestion, i don't feel enthusiastic abt my goals
But when i aks myself qs "is this goal realistic and real for you"abt the goal that i feel enthusiastic i get a no..
I want to word it precisely cause i feel enthusiastic abt it
So suggest something..

It definitely could be just a release way. The only thing I would add is just don't get upset if it takes additional releasing. The key is keep releasing and setting goals with positive expectations. That is the path to creating what you prefer in your life.

[MonaGreen]

Juat a release away!! ...