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How and Why Not to Lose Old Friends (and How to Get Them Back If You Have)

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  • How and Why Not to Lose Old Friends (and How to Get Them Back If You Have)

    As John Donne said, 'No man is an island.' Yet many adults get so completely wrapped up in their home and work lives that they forget to nurture one of the most important relationships a human being can have: that between friends.

    “Close relationships between friends are often the very support we need in any important transition or to help us through any important challenge,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates. “They also make our lives a lot richer.”

    Friends are not only important from an emotional level, they’re also important to your health. For instance, research from Ohio State University found that having close friends helps keep your immune system strong during times of stress.

    And one study of 37,000 people, conducted by James House, PhD, a University of Michigan sociologist, found that people who lived aloneor had few friends were twice as likely to die over 10 years than people with more friends and family.

    How to Keep the Friends You Have, Regain Those You’ve Lost, And Even Make Some New Ones

    Building new friendships, and cultivating those you have, can go a long way toward your emotional health and happiness.

    “It is important for adults to maintain close relationships because most adults have a hard time opening up to others,” Dwoskin says. “By allowing ourselves to maintain close relationships it allows us to remain open to others. Close friends are also great excuses to give from our hearts. Giving from our hearts opens us to the love and compassion that is at our core.”

    So how can you rebuild old friendships, start new ones, and cultivate those you already have?

    1. Overcome the emotional barriers standing in your way. If you are afraid to approach an old friend, or lack the self-esteem to find new ones, release those feelings using The Sedona Method. Once you release any negativity, you'll have an easier time inviting an old friend back into your life.
    2. Join a club, class or organization that interests you. If you immerse yourself in an activity you love, you’ll naturally meet new people.
    3. Do favors for neighbors, and ask for favors from them. Many of us overlook the friends right outside our doorstep. And friendships often bud from lending a hand. You can also use this approach to make friends at work or elsewhere.
    4. Set up “friend time.” This is a set time that you and your friends get together for coffee, a chat on the phone or to watch a sporting event on TV. The key is to make this time regular, and set in stone.
    5. Look for people with similar interests. This way, even if you feel you don’t have “time” for friends, you can combine friendship with other activities you love.
    6. Share The Sedona Method with your friends. 'If you're fortunate enough to have a good friend who is also a releasing buddy this is the best of both worlds,' Dwoskin says. 'Then in addition to having someone that you can open to and share with you have someone who will support you in the being who you are and in letting go. Plus, you will also find that it is great to have someone close whom you can support with their releasing.'
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