At some point in your life, a dark cloud likely passed through your life. Perhaps you were abused as a child or felt that your older sibling got all the attention. Or maybe your marriage was torn apart by infidelity or your close friend stabbed you in the back (figuratively, we hope).

Understandably, you may still feel upset that these things occurred. You may even still feel the pain acutely, as though the wound is still fresh.

But here is something you may not have considered:

“The more you resent the past the more you constantly relive the very experience that you resent the most, and the more you tend to recreate them in your current relationships,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates.

Resentment is, in effect, akin to keeping yourself in emotional prison. Your identifying with the hurtful event keeps you in a perpetual victim state, one that will not allow you to shake the pain. Instead, the more you focus on resenting something, the tighter that something will cling, like a monkey, to your back.

Meanwhile, while you are so busy directing your precious energy to generate continuous feelings of bitterness and antipathy, you are missing out big time on your life right now.

You Should be Living in the Now

This is the important premise behind Eckhart Tolle's newest book A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's True Purpose. While you, of course, can have memories of the past and anticipation of the future, when do you actually experience this memory and anticipation? That's right -- now.

Yet, if you hold on to resentment, your NOW will be clouded with those negative feelings. And that's not fair to you. A New Earth is a highly recommended read to help you understand that the NOW is all there is. And The Sedona Method is the perfect tool to help you actually grasp the power of now.

What is The Sedona Method? It is a practical tool to guide your awareness away from negative thoughts like resentment and toward peace, clarity and, ultimately, freedom.

“The best way to proceed with any past resentment is to let go of wanting to change the past or get even in any way,” Dwoskin says. “This does not mean you are condoning what happened. It simply means that you are letting go and moving on with your life.”

“By letting go, you free yourself to simply notice what is actually here now as opposed to living in regret about what might have been,” he continues. “The more you let go the more you discover that life only happens now. In fact, now is all there is.”