The Resilience Factor: Why Being Resilient is One of the Most Beneficial Traits You Can Have and How to Get It

When you think about resilience, who comes to mind? Christopher Reeve? People who lost a loved one on 9/11? Families who have lost their homes in the California wildfires?

All of these people faced major setbacks in life -- setbacks that could easily become defining moments in your life, for good or for bad. Yet, in these cases, you see shining examples of extreme resiliency: a man who was paralyzed, yet never lost hope; people who suddenly lost their spouses, yet kept moving forward; and families who have lost all of their material possessions, yet are bouncing back and moving on.

Being resilient -- being able to recover quickly from setbacks -- is a key factor to your health and happiness. Why? Because we live in turbulent times. And even when we didn't, life was not perfect. You will experience hardships, and the way you handle them will make all the difference.

While people who are resilient are able to harness their inner strength and grow from it even in the face of adversity, according to the Mayo Clinic people who lack resiliency are more likely to:
  • Dwell on their problems
  • Feel victimized
  • Become overwhelmed
  • Turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as substance abuse
  • Develop mental health problems

How to be Resilient

When you are resilient, your difficulties will not disappear. But they will not be able to hold you back, either. Studies show that resilience is an ordinary characteristic -- one that we all possess -- but some of us may need to develop this trait from within.

'Remember that the past does not have to dictate the future unless you say it does,' says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates.

Some of the top steps to building resilience involve letting go of the doubts, fears, sadness and other negative emotions that are clouding your view of a bright future. Whenever we recommend you 'let go,' we are referring to the simple act of 'releasing,' which you can learn from The Sedona Method.

Now, here are the top steps to take to build your resilience factor now:
  • Maintain strong personal relationships. Studies show that this is one of the keys to resiliency.
  • Have confidence in yourself, and your abilities. If you are feeling doubts about your ability to handle a tough time, release them using The Sedona Method.
  • Let go of wanting to change what was. 'Now is all there is, and the only time you can do anything about anything is now,' says Dwoskin.
  • Live in the present. 'Let go of wanting to tell yourself or anyone else a story about the problems of your past and focus instead on what you can do now to move things forward,' Dwoskin says.

Pay attention to self-discoveries. After you persevere through a difficult time, you may find that your relationships have become more meaningful, your goals more clear and your sense of spirituality heightened. You will be able to sense positive moves toward these new beginnings as soon as you open yourself to them, and pay attention.