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How and Why to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself

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  • How and Why to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself

    Have you always dreamed of starting your own business, but worry that you won't be successful? Or have you always pictured yourself living in Europe, only to scold yourself for thinking such a wild thought? There are countless ways that we second-guess ourselves -- downplaying our goals, dreams and intentions -- and all of them have one thing in common: they quite literally freeze you, your happiness and your success.

    “We often second-guess ourselves for several reasons,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates. “First off, we do not always know the difference between what is an emotional reaction and what is our own intuitive knowingness. This causes us to misread the inner cues that we receive in any situation.”

    “Also, because we cannot always explain our intuition we find it hard to trust what we cannot explain,” he continues.

    So all this time that you've been criticizing your own ideas and belittling your creative drive, could it have been that you were right all along? And those ideas were actually your intuition shining through, trying to lead you down the right path, only to have you second-guess yourself and turn back?


    And think of where you might have gone had you been able to stop second-guessing yourself. But how do you truly tell the difference between 'crazy' thoughts and real inner knowingness?

    “Fortunately, the solution is very simple,” Dwoskin says. “When you release you can easily tell the difference between intuition and reaction because reactions disappear and intuition simply gets quieter and clearer.”

    So learning how to release, a key principle of The Sedona Method, is like giving yourself a beacon to your dreams. You won't have to wonder 'should I or shouldn't I?' anymore.

    “Plus, as you release you let go of the need to explain, defend or justify what you know, which helps you to trust yourself with greater certainty and joy,” Dwoskin says.

    On a final note, when people close to you don't share your enthusiasm for a certain goal or dream, it can be even more disarming than second-guessing yourself. So if you need help overcoming someone else's second-guessing -- directed at YOU -- please read What to Do When Someone Close Doesn't Support Your Goals and Dreams.
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