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Being Single During the Holidays: How to Get Past the Doldrums & Enjoy the Season

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  • Being Single During the Holidays: How to Get Past the Doldrums & Enjoy the Season

    Just when you’ve driven yourself nearly crazy imagining the perfect partner to cozy up to next to the fireplace, and watched all the romantic holiday movies that you can stand, here’s a glimmer of hope: the holidays can be fun for singles, too.

    Nearly 96 million Americans are unmarried and single right now, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. That’s 43 percent of all U.S. residents over the age of 15. Of these, nearly 29 million people live alone (that’s 26 percent of all U.S. households) and over 12 million are single parents.

    Still, the holidays bring up an array of emotions for everyone, and it’s easy to feel down or depressed, particularly when you’re single in this couples-oriented season.

    "I think the reason the holidays can be such a difficult time for singles is that it's a time for reflection -- and for many singles it marks another year when their lives didn't work out the way they wanted it to," said Carol Allen, a Los Angeles-based relationships coach and radio personality.
    “A Great Gift or a Real Test of Will and Self-Confidence”

    For many single Americans, holiday emotions may run the gamut from feeling empowered to feeling alone.

    "For singles, the holidays can either be a great gift or a real test of will and self-confidence," says relationship expert Barbie Adler, president of a nationwide personal matchmaking service. "Having put so many couples together, I know that during the holidays, the act of being unattached is a petri dish of emotion -- frustration, stress, loneliness -- and the social pressure of the holidays can make you feel like you're a relationship outcast. That's a tough emotional hurdle to overcome."

    Finding Happiness During the Holidays

    Whether you are single, or are just feeling alone, it’s possible to release your negative emotions and feel peace, joy and happiness during the holiday season (and any time of year). Here’s how:

    1. Make plans. If you don’t want to be alone, make plans to spend the holidays with friends, co-workers or a club group. Volunteering is also a great way to spend the holidays and feel good about yourself. If you don’t mind being alone, plan activities for yourself such as decorating your tree, reading a book you’ve been wanting to read, taking a yoga class or wrapping up an art project you’ve been working on.
    2. Release negative thoughts with The Sedona Method. By using the scientifically verified Sedona Method, you will learn how to dissolve emotional distress anytime you feel it and replace it with feelings of peace, joy and well-being.
    3. Do something you’ve always wanted to. Whether it’s taking a sushi-making class or backpacking in the Rockies, now is the perfect time to indulge yourself and achieve a goal you’ve set.
    4. Connect with other singles. Many cities offer special events for singles during the holidays. Check your local paper, community center or look online for clubs, events and gatherings going on in your area.
    5. Reflect on what you’re thankful for. As you begin to release your negative thoughts with The Sedona Method, you'll find that it's easier than ever to focus on what's good in your life -- and the good things you're anticipating for the future. You'll also find that the more you think about these good things, the more they'll start to appear in your life!
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