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  • bellebrady
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    Hi Everyone,

    I was laid off in June 2009 in NYC. I moved to Boston a month later. I was unemployed for 5 months and took a lower paid position at another company. The company was not doing well and they cut my salary in half after 6 months. I decided to quit after working there for a year and move to Chicago to live with a good friend. I moved here 3 months and haven't had luck with the job search.

    I found the sedona method in 2008 and attended the course with David Ellzey in July of 2008. It was really fantastic and I felt it truly working.

    Lately I feel lost from the whole process and need to get back on track.

    Please help!
    -Renee

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  • Kate
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    Oooooops.... think that went on the wrong post.....never mind...just go beyond the mind !!!

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  • Kate
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    Dear Boo68 and SM difference makers !!
    Nice reading the calm and fearlessness that revealed itself from within and the money benefits, thanks and great !!
    In my experience Sedona Method allowed for plenty more laughter and goodbye victimhood and hate feelings, to inner peace and love feelings..which didnt happen totally over night but did happen!
    There was so much to be learned from listening to the basic Sedona Method 20 CD course...... even greif around death feelings someone was able to let go of.
    Maybe someone lives near you and has a spare CD course they could provide for you to work with or even have a spare set for you to have if you ask through here, even though it is not a free service for the basic SM course, but it would be great to work with 'live' releasing as well as the book, and get hold of a work book that goes with the course too if you can??
    You never know it just might be one of those magic financial income moments such as gaining unemployment benefits....hope, believe and know so...!! Happy Thanksgiving ;-)

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  • Horacio
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    Originally posted by Tim McCavitt View Post
    Hi MRL,

    My pleasure. As the feelings appear, remind yourself what you shared with me from the Letting Go movie: "feelings are just feelings, they're not facts, they are not you...and they can be released!" Again, I applaud your courageosness in asking for a session...and in the effortless releasing that followed! Let us know how you are doing!!

    Love,
    Tim
    [email protected]
    Sedona Method Coaching worldwide is life coaching using The Sedona Method®




    What appalls me about this message is they convey an incomplete idea yet are over
    and over repeated like a parrot to be the ultimate truth. Yes, feelings are just feelings,
    not facts and they (probably) can be released but the situation you find yourself
    caught in can have varying degrees of difficulty! It's not like everyone's life takes place
    on the same emotional, psychologycal and spiritual plane!

    For instance, if someone is torn apart by some isolated incident or circumstantial or
    fretting over a mistake then I can see how you can apply the "it's just a feeling"
    logic....BUT it's not the same as when having to deal with a chronic condition you
    DID NOT create and have to LIVE WITH
    .

    Let me tell you one thing: Health deterioration is going to rob you of your "joie de
    vivre"
    regardless of whether you played a part in it or not. It only adds insult to
    injury when you have done no wrong yet you must bear with it. Which is why Buddhists
    believe in the Karma doctrine. To explain the inexplicable. To attribute our worst
    present-day wrongs and tribulations, to past deeds obeying to past lives.

    That might sound harsh, but contemplating life's bi-zillion injustices day-by-day and
    pretending to put a joyful grin is a basket-case study; a total lost cause.

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  • Tim McCavitt
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    Hi MRL,

    My pleasure. As the feelings appear, remind yourself what you shared with me from the Letting Go movie: "feelings are just feelings, they're not facts, they are not you...and they can be released!" Again, I applaud your courageosness in asking for a session...and in the effortless releasing that followed! Let us know how you are doing!!

    Love,
    Tim
    [email protected]
    Sedona Method Coaching worldwide is life coaching using The Sedona Method®

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  • Minja
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    "For anyone else who feels like fear is running their life, who feels trapped by anxiety and depression, I highly recommend a personal session with a Sedona Method coach. It's like a beacon of light in the darkness"

    I agree with you MRL ( I also had my first releasing sessionswith Coaches lately) I am glad you feel much better now

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  • MRL
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    Tim, thanks very, very much for the personal, telephone releasing session. I've felt so much anxiety melt away -- it's a beautiful (and new!) feeling, and I look forward to what will unfold in the coming days as I continue to release. For anyone else who feels like fear is running their life, who feels trapped by anxiety and depression, I highly recommend a personal session with a Sedona Method coach. It's like a beacon of light in the darkness. Thanks again, Tim, for your compassion and guidance, and for giving me hope!

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  • Tim McCavitt
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    Hi MRL,
    I've been an independent contractor all my life, as an actor, in film production, real estate sales and investing, and am a Sedona Method Certified Coach. I invite you to email me, and let's set up a releasing session (for free, of course). Anxiety used to be my middle name...releasing changed it, quickly. In the interim, can you simply welcome any wanting to change your situation, any wanting to fix it, any wanting it to be different? Can you simply welcome the sense that it is personal to you? That it is your anxiety? Can you, in this moment, as best you can, open inside and allow it to release? Just a little bit, can go a long way!
    Regards,
    Tim
    [email protected]

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  • MRL
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    How Do I Overcome Fear and Anxiety

    Three years ago, I left the office job I'd been at for 17 years to become an independent contractor. I'd originally intended to stay at that job until retirement, because I loved it, but the company drastically changed my last years there and made me such a nervous wreck that I quit to be my own boss. But now work is dwindling and so is my bank account, and I am in tremendous fear about running out of money, yet also extremely phobic about going back to a job -- the exact thing that would solve my money problems. I've developed GAD and a racing heartbeat that starts hammering away as soon as I wake up in the morning. I've been to doctors and therapists, but nothing seems to really help this self-destructive anxiety. I can't even think about interviews or read job ads without going into panic. I've been in fear for years, and this is not living -- what releasing can I do to get over my phobias be confident and not have fear completely run -- and ruin -- my life anymore?

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  • Minja
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    Originally posted by BenvsWeb View Post
    In January 2009, 598,000 Americans working in the private sector lost their jobs. This latest round of layoffs brought the unemployment rate to 7.6 percent, up from 7.2 percent in December.

    In all, nearly 12 million Americans are now unemployed, a statistic that paints a bleak picture for those who have been recently laid off. With so many in the job market pool, competition is steep, and emotions are often shaky.

    Fear, anxiety, depression, anger, shame and guilt are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the emotional impact of being laid off. Unfortunately, all of these natural emotions are also the very ones that will hinder your ability to regroup and move on. So what, emotionally, should you do, if you are laid off?

    “The thing to do if you've been laid off is to remember that in any economy there are always jobs,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and Director of Training of Sedona Training Associates. “So rather than giving up, allow yourself to get into action to find the right new position for you.”

    In order to do this, you've got to first get into the right emotional mindset, and here are the steps to get you there:
    Don’t panic. It's natural to have a million worries after being laid off, but if you panic, you are essentially giving in to all of them. Instead of letting fear and panic get the better of you, stay calm and take things one day at a time.

    Get in control of your emotions by letting go. Your emotions create your thoughts, and your thoughts either put you into action or prevent you from acting. Your emotions actually determine your own blueprint for prosperity. And if you want your blueprint to be a successful one, you need to first develop the right attitude by letting go with The Sedona Method.

    “The best way to keep yourself on track and to feel good about yourself as you're doing it is to let go using the Sedona Method,” Dwoskin says. “This will help you to accept what has happened and find the courage to move on to greener pastures.”

    There are several great ways to release on both being laid off and on your next steps to take.

    “Allow yourself to review the job you just lost and release on both the things you liked and disliked about that position,” Dwoskin says. “This way you won't be carrying any excess baggage from your last job. Also, set up a clear goal for what would be your ideal next position. Then, allow yourself to release all the feelings inside of you that may be saying you can't or are holding you back.”

    Avoid feeling like a victim.
    If you have a victim mentality, you may feel like you're always the unlucky one and there's nothing you can do about it. This sets you up for nothing but continued failure because it shrouds you in negativity. The Sedona Method can help you to release the self-limiting beliefs that are causing you to be stuck in a victim mentality, and help you see that you can land the job you've always wanted.

    Make a list of action steps. These are the immediate actions you can take to help you find a new position.

    “Allow yourself to release on each action step until you feel courageous about taking the action,” Dwoskin says. “Releasing on the actions will also help you to discern which actions are correct for you and which are not.”

    Realize that you are not your job. Many people center their whole identities on what they do for a living. But you are much more than that. If you’ve been laid off or fired, take the time to remind yourself of the things that are most important to you, and which truly define who you are. This could be your spirituality, your family, your drive to help those around you, and so on.

    Invest in yourself. Being laid off can do some damage to your self-esteem and self-image, but it need not. Once you are unemployed, and even if you simply feel uncertain about your job security, begin to look at yourself as a small business, one in which you need to invest in to be successful. On a practical level, this means networking, re-educating yourself if necessary, revamping your resume, and so on.

    But you must also invest in yourself emotionally in order to be successful, and the best way to do that is by letting go using The Sedona Method. This is the most effective emotional process to uncover your positive emotions and propel you toward success. The more you let go, the more you will find that investing in yourself is easy. You will clearly see the next steps you need to take to gain financial security and achieve the lifestyle you want.

    Those who use The Sedona Method agree that it is not a luxury in the current economy; it is a basic survival and thrival tool. This is why, if you have any friends or loved ones who have recently been laid off, or fear they might be, passing on this article to them is so important for their financial future.

    Letting go is very powerful, and the more you use it, the easier it will be for you to turn an unfortunate situation such as a lay off into something positive … that often will leave you even better off than you were when you started.
    This is something so often in our lives, so in case someone didnt see this great text I am pulling it out to be seen Great advices of how to deal with these situations.

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  • Clarie van de Langenberg
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    Originally posted by Boo68 View Post
    Hello again Clarie and Delilah,

    I would like to update my status..
    I did a lot of releasing of wanting of security, survival,controlling and approval based on the advise.
    I also released negative feeling toward my former employer,too. Then I started feeling calmer and calmer and started feeling fearless.
    Guess, what happened next....my unemployment benefit request was granted after three month I requested!(I had the opportunity to talk to the investigator to explain my circumstance and situation but I did not expect that my request was granted.) I am financially ok now.
    I still have no luck for finding the job but now I can prove SM works! so I keep releasing on finding a job.
    I really appreciate your advise.
    Hi Boo68,

    thanks for sharing your gains with us! It's wonderful when you are in the flow like that.
    And yes, releasing really works!

    The releasing you did is also very helpful for your next step, finding a new job. You are in a better and calmer place (so to speak) to do your upcoming job interview and choosing the job you prefer.


    If you want to work with the Goals process, you could word a goal to find a job you enjoy.
    Example: 'I allow myself to effortlessly find a job I enjoy'
    With this (or the goal in your wording) you could play with the advantages/disadvantages questions. E.g.:
    what do you like about finding a job [you enjoy]
    welcome whatever comes up. is this related to a want to control, for approval, security, separation or oneness? Can you let that go?

    What do you not like about finding a job [you enjoy]
    welcome whatever comes up. is this related to a want to control, for approval, security, separation or oneness? Can you let that go?

    And go back and forth between those two polarities until you feel quiet, happy, expanded or fearless etc.

    (You can find more information about the advantages/disadvantages process in the Sedona Method book and on the basic audio course).

    Keep us posted!

    Clarie
    Last edited by Clarie van de Langenberg; 10-08-2010, 05:14 AM.

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  • Minja
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    Great reached goals Boo68 and great advices Clarie and Dalilah Thank you!

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  • Boo68
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    Hello again Clarie and Delilah,

    I would like to update my status..
    I did a lot of releasing of wanting of security, survival,controlling and approval based on the advise.
    I also released negative feeling toward my former employer,too. Then I started feeling calmer and calmer and started feeling fearless.
    Guess, what happened next....my unemployment benefit request was granted after three month I requested!(I had the opportunity to talk to the investigator to explain my circumstance and situation but I did not expect that my request was granted.) I am financially ok now.
    I still have no luck for finding the job but now I can prove SM works! so I keep releasing on finding a job.
    I really appreciate your advise.
    Last edited by Boo68; 10-06-2010, 10:05 PM.

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  • Clarie van de Langenberg
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    You are enough & Holistic releasing

    Hi Boo68,

    in answer to your questions:

    Here are some questions, how long should I release a day? Are there any recommendation or limitation?
    Since being fired from work, I feel like I am a loser so is there a good release techinque for it?
    There are no limitations to releasing.
    You might take a look at this Tips posting from Annie & Tim - this gives a lot of helpful hints to release during the day and still be playful with it:

    LINK: http://www.sedonamethodcommunity.com...-constant.html

    About the feeling of being a loser: do you have the DVD of Letting Go movie? There is a beautiful bonus part there, with a groupsrelease Hale is doing: You are enough. This is about the feeling you are not enough or you feel you don't have enough. Wonderful to release along with.

    Also a holistic release can be helpful:
    • could you allow yourelf to feel like a loser as much as you do in this moment?
    • Could you allow yourself to feel like a winner as much as you do in this moment


    Repeat this 7-9 times for yourself until you feel more peaceful, space etc.

    We tend to look at one side of the coin - but there are always 2 sides!
    In the beginning you may feel not much with the word winner ior even resistance, welcome that too if you do.

    A variation on this is:
    • could you allow yourself to hate feeling like a looser as much as you do in this moment?
    • could you allow yourself to love feeling like a looser as much as you do in this moment?


    Again, the word love in this context might stir up some feelings - allow yourself to welcome that too. With holistic releasing you dissolve the different polarities into each other.

    Just keep releasing, and remember to enjoy the time you don't feel the need to release and just feel okay!

    Clarie
    Last edited by Clarie van de Langenberg; 08-26-2010, 02:44 AM.

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  • Boo68
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    Dear Clarie and Delilah,

    Thank you very much for your advise. I did release with the tequniues and I started feeling better - especially releasing for wanting for control and safety. Every time I release something and go deepr and found out that they are underlying my desire..
    I happened to get invited Coach Susan's free telephone conference this afternoon but I did not have the opportunity to ask her for help due to the number of the paticipants. I really appreciate if both you guys can keep supporting me ..
    Here are some questions, how long should I release a day? Are there any recommendation or limitation?
    Since being fired from work, I feel like I am a loser so is there a good release techinque for it?

    Thanks,

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