Letting go of porn / masterbation addiction

[struck]

I'm not "addicted" to porn, but I view it when I get bored and sometimes do even feel compelled to go look at it and subsequently masterbate to it. I've read of all the terrible effects porn and masterbation has on your brain and have felt the benifits of going porn free for long periods of time. But I always relaps and binge. All my drive, ambition, social outgoingness, mental clarity disappear in the moments right after the whole process is done. And it's back to day 1. And it takes 2 whole weeks, if not more, to recover my hard earned super powers.


This is just background into my sistuation

Me and my gf have differ t work schedular right now and we don't live together and moved out of the basement we were renting.
Sometimes I got two whole weeks with no sex!!!!! And the. After I have sex.... I'm looking at another potential two weeks with no sex. So it's like 4 weeks with one sex essentially.

How to I let go of succumbing to watching porn?!?!?!

I really don't like porn and want to find a way to word a goal, and release away at this.

Any help is appreciated

Thank you.

[Sedona Training -- Alex]

I recommend looking at some of the body related releasing.

And perhaps this one http://www.sedona.com/programs/your-...-repulsion.asp

Alex

[Margreet]

Dear Struck, So what, if you watch porn? The more you resist it, the more it hooks on you. Just let it be, what is wrong with watching porn or masterbate? The last is (by what I know ) naturel. I think everybody does it (well almost everybody) And most people make pictures in their head while masturbating, and some watch pictures about it, or video's, but what is the difference? Its not that you have sex with others, when you are seperate from your partner (which you two are a lot). You say you really don't like porn, but at the same time you need it. Well, make your own with your girlfriend, to watch when you are separate and to masturbate with. Release on the judgement and the desperate feelings that you have about this. Not on the wanting to have sex in any form when you are seperated from your girlfriend. Because it is natural that your body/mind needs that.
Greetings from Margreet from the Netherlands

[DelilahCertifiedSMCoach]

Hi struck!

You might try something like:

I now allow myself to be porn-free and masturbation free.

Also, when you feel the urge you can release before acting on it. When a behavior is compulsive releasing on the wants in the moment is extremely enlightening. Many people find that is helpful for diluting then extinguishing addictions.

Sexual energy is like any energy. One of the things you can also do is take a little time and notice where the energy is in the body and allow it come up and move on through.

It can also be very helpful to release on any disapproval you have for yourself for any of this.

Often addictions or compulsive behaviors are covering over other things. You can ask "What would I be focused on right now if I wasn't focusing on porn or masturbating."

Attachment and aversion to any behavior is always useful to release on. You might explore using the attachment/aversion process on porn and masturbating.

Best,
Delilah

[lionel]

Stuck, stop beating yourself up and you'll stop beating yourself off! Stop 'shoulding' on yourself! Start enjoying the porn instead of resisting it and it will become less and less important. Try using the 5th Way - Welcome it, Stop trying to figure it out or change it, and then release any sense that it is personal or about you. At the end of the day you probably have a healthy sex drive and that can't be bad!

[JonJonJon]

maybe i come little late but its never too late to add something to this. porn can cause porn induced erectile dysfunction, panic attacks, insomnia, depression, mood swings, social disconnection, loneliness, brain fog, forgetfulness, hardcore addiction, low energy, low/fake libido, suicidal thoughts, social anxiety, loss of motivation, objectification of women, aggression towards women, porn induced fetishes, escalation in sexual taste (needs rougher more violent sex/porn to get the same pleasure), confusion about sexual orientation, loss of confidence and self esteem, loss of enjoyment in everyday life andactivities, reduction in dopamine receptors, loss of gray matter, brain changes in prefrontal cortex that affects will power, reasoning, memory, learning and etcetera.

there is a good tedx talk that can serve as an intro if you want to know more about porn and porn addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU