Letting go of porn / masterbation addiction

[struck]

I'm not "addicted" to porn, but I view it when I get bored and sometimes do even feel compelled to go look at it and subsequently masterbate to it. I've read of all the terrible effects porn and masterbation has on your brain and have felt the benifits of going porn free for long periods of time. But I always relaps and binge. All my drive, ambition, social outgoingness, mental clarity disappear in the moments right after the whole process is done. And it's back to day 1. And it takes 2 whole weeks, if not more, to recover my hard earned super powers.


This is just background into my sistuation

Me and my gf have differ t work schedular right now and we don't live together and moved out of the basement we were renting.
Sometimes I got two whole weeks with no sex!!!!! And the. After I have sex.... I'm looking at another potential two weeks with no sex. So it's like 4 weeks with one sex essentially.

How to I let go of succumbing to watching porn?!?!?!

I really don't like porn and want to find a way to word a goal, and release away at this.

Any help is appreciated

Thank you.

[Sedona Training -- Alex]

I recommend looking at some of the body related releasing.

And perhaps this one http://www.sedona.com/programs/your-...-repulsion.asp

Alex

[Margreet]

Dear Struck, So what, if you watch porn? The more you resist it, the more it hooks on you. Just let it be, what is wrong with watching porn or masterbate? The last is (by what I know ) naturel. I think everybody does it (well almost everybody) And most people make pictures in their head while masturbating, and some watch pictures about it, or video's, but what is the difference? Its not that you have sex with others, when you are seperate from your partner (which you two are a lot). You say you really don't like porn, but at the same time you need it. Well, make your own with your girlfriend, to watch when you are separate and to masturbate with. Release on the judgement and the desperate feelings that you have about this. Not on the wanting to have sex in any form when you are seperated from your girlfriend. Because it is natural that your body/mind needs that.
Greetings from Margreet from the Netherlands

[DelilahCertifiedSMCoach]

Hi struck!

You might try something like:

I now allow myself to be porn-free and masturbation free.

Also, when you feel the urge you can release before acting on it. When a behavior is compulsive releasing on the wants in the moment is extremely enlightening. Many people find that is helpful for diluting then extinguishing addictions.

Sexual energy is like any energy. One of the things you can also do is take a little time and notice where the energy is in the body and allow it come up and move on through.

It can also be very helpful to release on any disapproval you have for yourself for any of this.

Often addictions or compulsive behaviors are covering over other things. You can ask "What would I be focused on right now if I wasn't focusing on porn or masturbating."

Attachment and aversion to any behavior is always useful to release on. You might explore using the attachment/aversion process on porn and masturbating.

Best,
Delilah

[lionel]

Stuck, stop beating yourself up and you'll stop beating yourself off! Stop 'shoulding' on yourself! Start enjoying the porn instead of resisting it and it will become less and less important. Try using the 5th Way - Welcome it, Stop trying to figure it out or change it, and then release any sense that it is personal or about you. At the end of the day you probably have a healthy sex drive and that can't be bad!

[JonJonJon]

maybe i come little late but its never too late to add something to this. porn can cause porn induced erectile dysfunction, panic attacks, insomnia, depression, mood swings, social disconnection, loneliness, brain fog, forgetfulness, hardcore addiction, low energy, low/fake libido, suicidal thoughts, social anxiety, loss of motivation, objectification of women, aggression towards women, porn induced fetishes, escalation in sexual taste (needs rougher more violent sex/porn to get the same pleasure), confusion about sexual orientation, loss of confidence and self esteem, loss of enjoyment in everyday life andactivities, reduction in dopamine receptors, loss of gray matter, brain changes in prefrontal cortex that affects will power, reasoning, memory, learning and etcetera.

there is a good tedx talk that can serve as an intro if you want to know more about porn and porn addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

[Jeff69]

Hey guys, my names Jeff and I’m really troubled right now because I have just realised the true gravity of the situation regarding my porn addiction. I am 18 and today me and a girl were actually about to have sex, except for the fact that I was just not aroused at all. I realise that it was probably related to my addiction and it’s a psychological issue, as I still wake up hard af every morning feeling perfectly fine lmao. I am currently on a plan to end my addiction by trying to go for 90 days without watching porn or masturbating, but can you guys give me any tips or advice? Thanks so much

[DelilahCertifiedSMCoach]

Hi Jeff!

If you are familiar with releasing and The Sedona Method you might find that releasing on the wants as they come up for you when the urge to watch porn or to masturbate appears in awareness. If not, I recommend that you get TSM book and have a look at the section on the wants. All addiction is not just about biochemical changes. The biochemical changes appear after the behavior is engaged in. The behavior is an attempt to avoid underlying wants for either and various combinations of wanting approval, control, security, and oneness. When we address those wants directly the behavior no longer has a purpose. Here is a link for the book if you are new to TSM. Some folks have been able to let go of various compulsive behaviors quickly by using TSM while others have needed to repeat the processes for a longer duration. Don't be discouraged with how your particular process unfolds. If you have the willingness to release on this issue you will find that the results are far reaching and benefit you in ways that go way beyond just dealing with a compulsive behavior.

You might want to change your profile name if you are in fact serious about addressing an addiction to porn. Using a profile name like the one you have chosen actually cements your identity to a pattern of behavior that you say you want to extinguish. I am writing this not as a criticism but for the purpose of helping you to let go of identifying with a behavior that you want to extinguish. You are much more than any of your behaviors. When you allow yourself to think of yourself as more than any behavior you begin to free yourself up to find out what that "more" actually is.

Best,
Delilah