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    Hi All. I'm new at this site but have been releasing since January 2013, and holding on since 1988 (LOL). My introduction to releasing was the book Letting Go: The Pathway to Surrender by Dr. David Hawkins. As a teenager I got pulled into the map of consciousness that he promoted, as I'm sure some of you are aware of. Hawkins evidently wrote the Letting Go book as a manuscript with Lester back in 1984, which I had no idea at the time of purchase. The book is helpful and has a lot of neat ways of looking at releasing that isn't covered in the Release Technique/Sedona Method material. But I didn't really start getting the hang of releasing until I borrowed my dad's copy of the Abundance Course from Larry Crane in August 2014. That started my releasing journey and shortly thereafter I found Hale's material and it has changed my life for the better. I've made a ton of gains in every area, but I still find myself a bit stuck on lusting/porn/sex. I set a goal in December 2012 as a part of trying to overcome pornography addiction to go 100 days without an orgasm or looking at sexually stimulating material intentionally. Here it is July 5th and I'm not one day closer to the goal.

    I would like to treat the porn as a hard drug, and therefore per Hale's advice, simply not do it while releasing around it. This is way easier said than done though. I am currently using a holistic release of my own "Can I allow myself to desire porn or sexual stimulation as much as I do/And Now can I allow myself to be as beyond sexual desire as I am". I have found a tremendous release on it but still find the behavior there. In other words, I do feel better, but I would like it get myself to stop doing the behavior without feeling like I'm going to die in the corner of a room like a heroin addict who missed his fix (that's what porn withdrawal feels like aka get your kid's computer out of his/her bedroom!).

    I am willing to accept going through this the conventional way, and simply release as best I can as I go through a hell of a few months HOWEVER I feel like I will just repress it. I've been to almost 60 days but every time I would get near my wife I would just become super aroused and it made life incredibly difficult. I guess it just represses when you white knuckle but I'm not sure what else to do when the urges become serious.

    So long winded post shortened up: should I accept what is going on moment to moment and just go through the process of withdrawal as best I can or is there a way I can knock this out without feeling like crap for months or repressing?

    ANY advice or personal experience, or whatever IS VERY WELCOME AND APPRECIATED! Empty cup here. It's been 3 1/2 years and I'm still a rookie at this.

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    from what you wrote it appears that 100 days without orgasm as an overarching goal is not working for you, regardless of what Hale has to say.

    Would it be useful to choose anew each morning- just for today ......

    Would it be helpful to look at the list of words associated with lust and release on them one by one?

    good luck

    zannierose

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    • #3
      Originally posted by zannierose View Post
      from what you wrote it appears that 100 days without orgasm as an overarching goal is not working for you, regardless of what Hale has to say.

      Would it be useful to choose anew each morning- just for today ......

      Would it be helpful to look at the list of words associated with lust and release on them one by one?

      good luck

      zannierose

      Those are definitely good ideas, thank you for the advice! Much appreciated

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      • #4
        What Zannie says makes sense to me. In my experience trying to tackle the entirety of such a challenge all at once never works. Rather than thinking in terms of your addiction, how about slowing things down and focusing primarily on your internal state - how you feel inside? Maybe if you think in terms of keeping your balance moment to moment, rather than slaying the dragon, you might have a different experience.

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