If I am truly "letting go" why do I have to repeat the questions over and over again?

[Eri]

Hello everyone. I've been using the Sedona Method for well over a decade now. I have had limited success with it, and an equal amount of frustration. I know from firsthand experience that it works, but one thing I keep getting hung up on is WHY it's necessary to keep repeating the same questions over and over and over again. If I've truly let something go, why do I keep having to ask myself to let it go again? I understand that repeating the questions can lead to a deeper release, but for me, repeating the questions seems to subtly imply that my difficult feelings are going to keep coming back, which then sets up in my imagination the idea that they ARE coming back, and so I fail to get a really deep release.

Is there a better way to frame the reason for repeating the releasing questions over and over again? I want to find a mental frame that helps me think of it as something that creates deeper releases instead of as being necessary to fend off the inevitable return of difficult feelings.

[DelilahCertifiedSMCoach]

Hi Eri!

1. You wrote, "but for me, repeating the questions seems to subtly imply that my difficult feelings are going to keep coming back, which then sets up in my imagination the idea that they ARE coming back, and so I fail to get a really deep release.

A: This is your belief, this is not a fact. You might want to explore this belief with the adv/disadv process. You might find that you feel ambivalent about being free, or at peace. If this is true, you are not alone in this. Many of us have ambivalence about freedom and peace. There are a whole host of reasons why feel ambivalent and the adv/disadv process can uncover what they are for us.

2. And then you wrote, "Is there a better way to frame the reason for repeating the releasing questions over and over again? I want to find a mental frame that helps me think of it as something that creates deeper releases instead of as being necessary to fend off the inevitable return of difficult feelings."

A. You might try writing a goal statement about this for yourself to release on. Ex: "I now allow myself to have deeply successful releases every time I repeat a releasing question.

3. You wrote, "...fend off the inevitable return of difficult feelings." Welcome the belief that difficult feelings will inevitably return. And then see if there is any wanting to prevent that. Welcome that. And then see if you could let go of wanting to prevent that. Welcome whatever your answer is. And then check and see if you could let go of wanting that belief to be real or true. Again, welcome whatever your answer is. Repeat this as needed.

Warmly,
Delilah

[Eri]

Thank you Delilah. I went and sat on a bench at the park and did advantages/disadvantages on "getting stuck and angry and feeling unable to release" and it really loosened me up a bit. Gives me more space now to work with some other stuff. I have a long history of only moderate success releasing so I've accumulated a lot of beliefs about releasing itself. I'll be trying the rest of your suggestions later.