Hi there,
I've been using the SDM for a few months now, and as I am reading the book again I notice that as soon as I got to the section about releasing the four basic wants, that's what I've been focusing on. Looking at the tree diagram, it makes a lot more sense to me to be working on the root issues(wants) instead of trimming the branches. However, if it were not necessary to also be working on the 9 emotional states, I can't see why there would be such desciption on how to deal with them. In TSM, Hale sugggests reviewing and working on the chaper of letting go of emotions multiple times before moving on. At what point is one ready to move onto focusing on the four basic wants? How does one decide whether to be sorting a feeling into the 9 emotional states, or into the 4 basic wants (and their counterparts)? Again, in my mind, going for the roots would make much more sense, so why even focus on the emotional states? Perhaps there is so much foliage in the way, one can't access the roots until enough is cleared out?
Thanks
I've been using the SDM for a few months now, and as I am reading the book again I notice that as soon as I got to the section about releasing the four basic wants, that's what I've been focusing on. Looking at the tree diagram, it makes a lot more sense to me to be working on the root issues(wants) instead of trimming the branches. However, if it were not necessary to also be working on the 9 emotional states, I can't see why there would be such desciption on how to deal with them. In TSM, Hale sugggests reviewing and working on the chaper of letting go of emotions multiple times before moving on. At what point is one ready to move onto focusing on the four basic wants? How does one decide whether to be sorting a feeling into the 9 emotional states, or into the 4 basic wants (and their counterparts)? Again, in my mind, going for the roots would make much more sense, so why even focus on the emotional states? Perhaps there is so much foliage in the way, one can't access the roots until enough is cleared out?
Thanks
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