Love and Uncoditional Love

[ArmaDino]

Hi everyone,
Been thinking for the last few weeks about this topic. Love and unconditional love. The thing is, if love is unconditional, shouldn't there be no preference in all of our relations. Or simply put, if love is uncoditional, why do we love a certain someone? Isn't this attachment and aversion? just a thought

Love and peace to everyone,
Dinu

[hale dwoskin]

Hi everyone,
Been thinking for the last few weeks about this topic. Love and unconditional love. The thing is, if love is unconditional, shouldn't there be no preference in all of our relations. Or simply put, if love is uncoditional, why do we love a certain someone? Isn't this attachment and aversion? just a thought

Love and peace to everyone,
Dinu

Dinu,
Yes unconditional love has no preference. However you can still have preference and unconditional love even though this makes no sense. I love my wife and I love all!
Love.
Hale

[Theme1]

I love this post. :-) thanks everyone.

[diame]

Well love and unconditional love are differ from each other.

If a person love you just because you are beautiful or kind.. He's just love you in that way.
If a person love you no matter who and what you are., He really loves you even without in return he loves you unconditionally. He can give to you anything even his single life.

[johnsonbelly]

According to me conditional love is big issues in real life, because most of the people facing a problem after married.

[ricklife]

The only love I consider unconditional is God's love and my mother's love.

Nothing I ever do could make them love me less.

[celabright]

Not understood your Ques Dear!!!

[jack98ST]

I love this post. :-) thanks everyone.

[DelilahCertifiedSMCoach]

Hi folks,

This is a great topic and great thread. So many of us think of love being outside of us. We are so distracted with the stuff of our lives and the stuff of the world that we loose touch with the infinite, unconditional love that we are right now. Releasing reveals that infinite, unconditional love that we are by unpeeling all the layers of distraction. Having a close inimate love relationship with one particular so called "other" does not exclude loving everyone. Personal intimate love with "one particular other" is just one of the many ways love expresses itself. Love is an interesting phenomenon. Unlike anything else, when we share love we don't exerperience less love but more love. Check this out for yourself by releasing any and all obstacles you feel you have to experiencing the infinite and unconditional love that you are.

Thanks for this thread,
Delilah

[Teodor]

Yeah Love is conditional it is good for long term relation. When love is unconditional the relation can't be built long term. The relation would be for some time in unconditional love.

[Coach Susan]

Delilah,

I love your response! Very beautiful!

And also, our unconditional love doesn't have anything to do with the so-called object of that love. It's pure deliciousness for us, for the lover. It doesn't bind us to the object of it. So, Teodor, it doesn't create or prevent a long term relationship. But all relationships are better from that platform of unconditional love. It's very different from the neediness, attachment and aversion most people regard as love. There is no wanting or lack in it. It's pure ease and beauty, very rich and full.

You can uncover this for yourself as you release. And here's a little something that may help:

Focus on something - anything - in your environment. It could be the desk in front of you, your phone, your computer, or anything else:

Then ask yourself:

Could I let go of wanting to change it?
Could I allow this object to have love and approval, just as it is?

Don't make an effort to let go or give love. Simply use these questions and your natural responses as an exploration.

Then repeat, focusing on something else?

Could I let go of wanting to change this object?
Could I allow it to have love and approval, just as it is?

Keep on and notice how you feel. Do you feel more acceptant, softer, freer? Let me know your results.

We're going to explore the relationship between love and wanting approval and more tomorrow in a special 2 1/2 teleseminar 'Beyond Wanting Approval.' You will need to register to attend, and there's a small fee. The call will be recorded for those who can't attend live. You can find out more here: Beyond Wanting Approval. I hope you can join us.

Thanks to all for this great thread.

[stacy0815]

Focus on something - anything - in your environment. It could be the desk in front of you, your phone, your computer, or anything else:

Then ask yourself:

Could I let go of wanting to change it?
Could I allow this object to have love and approval, just as it is?

Don't make an effort to let go or give love. Simply use these questions and your natural responses as an exploration.

Then repeat, focusing on something else?

Could I let go of wanting to change this object?
Could I allow it to have love and approval, just as it is?

Keep on and notice how you feel. Do you feel more acceptant, softer, freer? Let me know your results.

This is exactly what I've been looking for. I am in a situation where I love my step-daughter, but the love is conditional (e.g., I love her more when she does XYZ or doesn't do ABC). I have never felt that she loves me in return, even though she mutters it back to me when I tell her I love her. Perhaps she senses the conditions.

I think it will be very helpful to release on letting go on wanting to change her and allowing myself to love and approve her just as she is.

Thank you!

Love,
Stacy

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Focus on something - anything - in your environment. It could be the desk in front of you, your phone, your computer, or anything else:

Then ask yourself:

Could I let go of wanting to change it?
Could I allow this object to have love and approval, just as it is?

Don't make an effort to let go or give love. Simply use these questions and your natural responses as an exploration.

Then repeat, focusing on something else?

Could I let go of wanting to change this object?
Could I allow it to have love and approval, just as it is?

Keep on and notice how you feel. Do you feel more acceptant, softer, freer? Let me know your results.

This is exactly what I've been looking for. I am in a situation where I love my step-daughter, but the love is conditional (e.g., I love her more when she does XYZ or doesn't do ABC). I have never felt that she loves me in return, even though she mutters it back to me when I tell her I love her. Perhaps she senses the conditions.

I think it will be very helpful to release on letting go on wanting to change her and allowing myself to love and approve her just as she is.

Thank you!

Love,
Stacy

[DelilahCertifiedSMCoach]

Hi Stacy!

Thanks so much for your post! It helps so many folks to see that they are not the only ones experiencing these things and that there are benefits to releasing that allow us to approach these everyday challenges with ease and love.

Delilah