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    Hi everyone,
    Just watched the Letting Go movie a few days ago and had been practicing "letting go" since.
    However, I've encountered a problem, if anyone has views on how to approach this, it would be much appreciated.
    After welcoming issues or concerns, there's a sense of relief as the thoughts seem to subjugate itself in this process. But upon letting go, the mind wants to justify itself......give reasoning or excuses on these issues before it lets go.
    What does one do then? It seemingly is the cause of recurrence. ....Or is something else happening here?
    How does one overcome this addiction of the mind.

  • #2
    The Anatomy of a problem

    Hi Lyna,

    yes, the addiction of the mind can be really strong; it would like it's control back...

    Your noticing what the mind is doing, indicates that your identification with the problem is not that strong in this moment – you have some space between you and the problem to notice what’s going on.

    On the basic course CD's Hale talks about the 'Anatomy of a problem' and this gives lots of clues about what happens when we appear to have a problem.

    Here is a summary:

    He tells when you think you have a problem, the following cycle starts in our mind:

    1. We appear to have a problem
    2. We want to figure out what to do
    3. We defend, justify and/or explain the problem – we reject the problem and/or we reject ourselves for having the problem – we look for evidence a having this problem
    4. Because of these thoughts and believes the problem appears even more real
    5. Start at 1. again.

    In the background there always is our inner knowingness, but we tend to get caught up in this cycle.

    Hale explains there are quick solutions for this!

    At any point in this cycle, when you notice what is going on, you can step out of it by welcoming what is in the moment and letting go:

    • Let go of wanting to figure it out
    • Let go of wanting to to defend, justify or explain the problem
    • Let go of rejecting yourself for having this problem
    • Let go of rejecting the problem
    • Instead of looking for evidence of the problem, look for where it is not

    You can use this any time you start to think you have a problem.

    Hope this helps,
    Let us know how you are doing!

    Enjoy,
    Clarie
    Last edited by Clarie van de Langenberg; 09-01-2010, 03:52 AM.
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    • #3
      Be free with, not from the mind

      Originally posted by [email protected] View Post
      Hi everyone,
      Just watched the Letting Go movie a few days ago and had been practicing "letting go" since.
      However, I've encountered a problem, if anyone has views on how to approach this, it would be much appreciated.
      After welcoming issues or concerns, there's a sense of relief as the thoughts seem to subjugate itself in this process. But upon letting go, the mind wants to justify itself......give reasoning or excuses on these issues before it lets go.
      What does one do then? It seemingly is the cause of recurrence. ....Or is something else happening here?
      How does one overcome this addiction of the mind.
      Hi Lyna,
      in addition to what Clarie wrote about so called problems some general thoughts about the mind.
      The nature of the mind is to chatter, there's nothing wrong with that It only appears to be disturbing when we resist or want to change the sounds in our head.

      You could use the basic tools of the Method:

      Could you let go of wanting to change or control the sounds in your head?
      Would you?
      When?

      Could you love your mind because it is the way it is?

      Ooops, a client just arrived...

      Basically, you are facing something very normal. Let go of wanting to change that, don't fight your mind, be free with it.
      Skype me up - schedule your free session now!

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      • #4
        Thank you Claire,
        That was indeed helpful, and is exactly what's going on in my head. But in regard to the solutions..... what does the last point mean? "Instead of looking for the evidence of the problem, look for where it is not" My mind can't seem to logically grasp this.
        Aloha, Lyna

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        • #5
          Coach Jan,
          Thank you for that reassurance. I guess I was resisting my mind without realizing it. I'm not a chattery person, but I'm discovering my mind is. hehe! But, why do we want love a mind with negative thoughts and/or feelings? Can't I just settle for accepting "because it is the way it is?"

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Lyna View Post
            Hi everyone,
            Just watched the Letting Go movie a few days ago and had been practicing "letting go" since.
            However, I've encountered a problem, if anyone has views on how to approach this, it would be much appreciated.
            After welcoming issues or concerns, there's a sense of relief as the thoughts seem to subjugate itself in this process. But upon letting go, the mind wants to justify itself......give reasoning or excuses on these issues before it lets go.
            What does one do then? It seemingly is the cause of recurrence. ....Or is something else happening here?
            How does one overcome this addiction of the mind.
            Hi Lyna,

            I would add to the great stuff Clarie and Jan write here...

            Could you welcome any wanting to justify, explain or defend (this)?

            And now, check and see, could you let go of wanting to justify, explain or defend?

            Would you if you could?

            When?

            Thanks for this great question.

            Keep us posted on how things are unfolding,
            Delilah
            www.theaccordcenter.net

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            • #7
              Hi Lyna,

              you are welcome. About the last bit:

              But in regard to the solutions..... what does the last point mean? "Instead of looking for the evidence of the problem, look for where it is not" My mind can't seem to logically grasp this.
              It just means, look where the problem is not. E.g. when you have tension in your shoulders, where is the tension not (in other parts of your body).

              Enjoy,
              Clarie
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              E-mail: [email protected] - http://www.sedona-methode-coaching.nl
              Sedona Methode Nederland - Facebook group: http://www.facebook.com/home.php?sk=...690791391&ap=1
              Reconnect Yourself - Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/ReconnectYourself
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              • #8
                Hi Delilah,
                That was good advice. Treating that as an isolated issue was actually what I needed to do.
                Thank you, Lyna

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                • #9
                  Hi Claire,
                  I get the e.g. of looking where the problem isn't in reference to the body,
                  but it's in my thoughts.................Aha!
                  You mean the thought is only in my head, and nowhere else?
                  Wow, heavy.........Thanks Claire, Lyna

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Lyna View Post
                    Coach Jan,
                    But, why do we want love a mind with negative thoughts and/or feelings? Can't I just settle for accepting "because it is the way it is?"
                    Do whatever works for you!

                    If you "love it, because it is the way it is" it can be a chance to give your mind even less power over you. In the end, there is no mind, there are only thoughts appearing to noone. So why take them too seriously?
                    Skype me up - schedule your free session now!

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