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  • #16
    Hi Humble!

    I am soooooo sorry that I've missed some of your posts!

    The challenge is to remember when things don't work out the way want them too that that just means they weren't supposed to. It doesn't mean that life is against us. It's hard to remember this when we are hurting or stressed.

    Crying like a baby is not a bad thing if that what's happening. There are no good or bad feelings. There is just the feeling that's here now. And whatever feeling that is, is coming up to appear in awareness so that it can do what it needs to do and then release. Cry like a baby if that's what needs to happen. Suppressing that will postpone the release.

    One of the loveliest releases that Hale does around folks who have died:

    Can you find where _________(fill in the blank) ends and you begin?
    Welcome your answer.

    Can you find where you end and _________(fill in the blank) begins?
    Welcome your answer.

    BTW, one of the things that really helps me is I talk to people who have died. I talk to them and tell them everything that I would have told them when they were here. I find that that allows my process, grief, loss, but also joy and appreciation, and even anger and disappointment still need to be expressed so that I don't suppress. This may sound really silly but it keeps the process moving for me.

    You seem to be moving forward very nicely. And YES! You've got internet friends here, absolutely!

    Warmly,
    Delilah
    www.theaccordcenter.net

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    • #17
      Hi Delilah,

      Thank you. It's been interesting. Some reconnecting but still nothing like what I want. So maybe I have to release on that. I kinda just want a few people I can shoot the breeze with. And it seems like everyone I used to know that I got back in touch with ... is super busy. But it's like they are trying really hard to be super busy. One of 'em even said something to that effect. That he's trying to fill up all hours of his day. And I kinda don't "get" that way of thinking. It seems too busy. lol

      I'll try the releases you suggested. A new thing came into play too. Someone I used to be really really attracted to. And we talked. But it seems like that's it. Just a little bit of talking. And it was funny because it felt like I had about a 5 day crush. It's still kinda lingering. It was funny because it was definitely old teenage feelings that came up. That's when we go back to. And it kind felt good to feel that. But disappointing too. And I kinda want those feelings to stay. But also go lol

      I'd also like a romantic relationship. Like a real one, not hooking up and not some shallow one where you never really get to know each other. I kinda wanna know what it's like to be married 30 years or something.
      Last edited by Humble; 09-29-2019, 09:41 PM.

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      • #18
        Hi Humble!

        Sounds like you're making gains in that you are able to approach people with more ease.

        It's not uncommon for us to find that people we used to connect with have changed and we have changed too.

        Making friends is easier when we meet people socially around an activity that we all like, like releasing or singing or birding. Perhaps you can find a releasing group locally or a group of people who like to go out to eat or a book club.

        Keep releasing because it sounds like somethings have gotten better for you inside yourself.

        Warmly,
        Delilah
        www.theaccordcenter.net

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