Everyone feels angry sometimes, and it´s easy to understand feeling angry about an argument with your spouse or an altercation with your neighbor. Yet for some people anger is a feeling they live with from day to day, and it can feel like it stems from nothing in particular (or anything and everything.)
How is it possible to feel angry for no reason? Well, according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger, “anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage.”
So it is quite possible to be angry in an irritated sort of way, or angry in a shouting-at-the-top-of-your-lungs sort of way. In other words, if you always feel irritable, on-edge or hostile, it could be because deep down you´re harboring feelings of anger. These emotions often stem from worries about your own problems that manifest into a tainted worldview, one that positions everyone against you and trying to make your life harder (when in reality none of this is true).
“When dealing with anger we often are not even sure why we feel the way we do,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates. “This is because anger often accumulates and has many apparent causes, yet what may trigger the anger response may be quite minor in the moment.”
In fact, according to the American Psychological Association (APA), people who take on too much, always rush, worry endlessly and subject themselves to too many self-inflicted pressures may suffer from episodic acute stress. This type of stress not only leads to health problems like heart disease, migraines and hypertension, it tends to contribute to feelings of irritability, anxiousness, and tension and often triggers short tempers.
People with 'type A' personalities, meanwhile, tend to live their lives with episodic acute stress. According to the APA, 'Type A's have an excessive competitive drive, aggressiveness, impatience, and a harrying sense of time urgency. In addition there is a free-floating, but well-rationalized form of hostility, and almost always a deep-seated insecurity.'
If any of this applies to you -- if you feel you´re under a lot of stress, cannot keep up with self-created demands, and generally have no 'down' time -- you could easily be feeling angry a lot of the time and not know exactly why.
How to Let go of Anger (Even if You´re Angry for No Reason)
Are your emotions silently simmering all the time, just waiting to boil over? NOW is the time to regain control of your life and find happiness once again. How? By redirecting your thoughts and breaking the anger cycle.
“No one feels angry all the time, although it can often feel that way,” says Dwoskin. “Whenever we say ‘all the time´ in relation to a problem we are usually overlooking all the times the feeling is not there. So if you feel like you're angry over time start noticing the times that you're not angry and you´ll be surprised at how often that is.”
“The more you notice the times that you're not angry the easier it will be to deal with the times that you are,” Dwoskin says.
For those times when you do feel angry, let the feeling go using the scientifically proven Sedona Method®. Best of all, when you use The Method you can let anger go no matter what, even if you don´t know the cause.
“You do not need to know why you feel angry in order to let it go,” Dwoskin says. “You can simply welcome what you're feeling and then let it go as best you can. The more you release the anger the more you´ll feel in control of your anger -- and the less likely you will be to say and do things that you´ll later regret.”
'As you continue to release your angry feelings,' he continues, 'you'll find that even the things that make you feel the most anger right now can become completely calm and anger-free.'