I have questions about releasing the 3 wants - approval, control, and security according to TSM.
These questions may have been asked/answered before and I apologize to repeat them if that's the case but I'd appreciate it if you could answer them again.
(1) Is it preferable to use these words? Sometimes other synonyms are more "fit." in context. For example "wanting to be liked" "wanting to change something" "Wanting to be protected" etc. The differences are small but they can make a big difference when it comes to feeling "Yes! It is exactly what I'm wanting." if you know what I mean. Is it OK to adjust the words?
(2)I understand these are the "umbrella wants" meaning there are other wants under them. Is it always better to go up to these 3 wants? For example, I have a tendency to "wanting to be understood" and "wanting to be right." They are probably each under "wanting approval" and "wanting control." But when I use "approval" or "control" for them, I can't really feel these wants. For example, in the big picture I probably want control by wanting to be right, but I can't "feel" it's coming from there. Is it as effective if I say "Could I let go of wanting to be right?" etc. instead of going up to "control"? Or is it better to use the 3 wants maybe because the subconscious somehow understand the bigger picture?